Nicolas Merry

There’s likely a reason why you have sought professional help and it's probably because there is something in your life that you are struggling with and are unable to control. The problem might be a recent issue or something you have had for quite some time. Either way, it has had an impact on your happiness which is why you are seeking help.

Our problems can often prevent us from enjoying life and leave us unwilling to participate in activities that once brought us happiness. Our problems can be painful, mentally, physically and emotionally; they can lead to excessive worrying and sleepless nights that increase our emotional distress. Your problem may also have been too personal to share, so you have kept it hidden because of feelings of shame and guilt.

Being able to talk to someone who understands each aspect of your experiences is helpful. A counsellor can support you in finding ways to cope with emotional pain and discover how things can get better. The role I have is to support you in finding ways to make life better.

It might be that you have tried various things in the past that haven’t worked out for you, or you just don’t know what to do; I am here to help you work out what is best for you. It is likely that there are reasons that are preventing you from changing things yourself; we can discover what they are and make the change.

Training, qualifications and experience

I am a humanistic integrative counsellor, which means I tailor my counselling using theories that best meet your needs. 

I have nine years experience working with a variety problems, e.g., anxiety, bereavement, childhood sexual abuse, depression pornography addiction and other issues.

I am a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, and work within the professional bodies code of ethics and standards.

There is no fee for our initial meeting as we will use it to talk about what led you to counselling. This first discussion will  give you the opportunity to decide if you feel you could work with me and allow me to gauge whether my experience and skills meet your needs. This meeting will last up to 30 minutes whereas all future counselling sessions will normally be 50 minutes.

If your experience is beyond my expertise I will tell you in the introductory meeting; your welfare is important and finding the right counsellor with the right skills to work with is essential.